Simply and perfectly
Have you ever compared your own mothering skills to someone else’s?
Are you the mama who gets down on the floor, and plays with the little one’s for longer than a few minutes?
Do you make magical stuff from an abundance of kitchen ingredients, and of love, mixed with bright colors, or for the raw desire for hands-on imagination, and creation?
Or, are you the mama who only pretends to read the entire pages of the Mr. Bunny book at night?
Sorry kids, it’s about time you know the truth… 😉
I am not the mom who likes the mess. I am more, the mom who would be happy to buy slime, or goo, or flarp, at a good price. I would love to be right in the middle of the noise, and the goo creations, I just don’t care to make the stuff.
Ok, and maybe they need to play with that stuff outside. So what? Does that deem me a terrible mommy?
I am pretty certain that I would rather, enjoy some other activity with my kids, and they would enjoy it, too.
It isn’t necessary to guilt yourself in to doing all the things that are the trend at the time. If you enjoy that stuff, then, that is what you should do with your kids. Your kids will enjoy the time, because they will experience all the fun you are having with them.
I used to make home-made play-doh when my older kids were littler. I just didn’t enjoy making it. I dreaded playing with it, even more. It would stick to everything, and everyone just a bit toooooo much.
Maybe, I just had a bad recipe. Eh, no… most likely, it’s just me.
One thing I have learned through mothering, is to be exactly the Mother that God has entrusted me to be for my kids; for my Family. All Mother’s have one thing in common, and it’s that we were simply, and perfectly, chosen to be teachers—diligently guiding, and leading them. To be guarders of their hearts, and of their innocence. Instructing all things, and knowing self-control, and integrity. We must do these things with a loving, and patient heart.
No way does that mean we must make super cool, balls of color, that fizz in bathtub water. If we do, great. If we enjoy that time spent with our little ones, it’s a perk. Not a necessity for their well-being.
I may not do puppet shows with my kids, but I will never turn down watching one, if they’re in it.
I may not play Marco-Polo in the pool, but I love hearing them play it.
I may rarely get down on the floor to play with little people villages, but I sure delight in little people, playing at my feet.
I do spend a lot of time cooking with my older girls, talking, and laughing, and talking some more. I spend time tickling my littlest ones, and laughing until I get a headache. I spend time with my oldest son, hearing about his plans to build a porch off his bedroom, so he can sit and look at the moon at night, and wait for owls, and bats to come out. That’s right, I said bats. *sigh* if you only knew…
Do the things that you enjoy doing with your kids. Don’t do the things your friends are doing, it may not be what’s most beneficial to you, or your family. Follow God’s pattern for Motherhood, not your neighbors. Don’t worry about what all the Instagram moms are doing, or anyone else, for that matter. Do what it is, you should do, instead. Don’t ever put unimportant pressure on yourself—for this journey has enough trials, on it’s own.
In our house, there goes a mother, who, likes to scare her children. Yes, I know, it doesn’t seem fitting, but it’s true. I take every opportunity to get them. They never know if I will be hiding in their closet at bedtime, or behind a door in a dark room. 🙂 🙂 Some of them love it, and are thrilled at the thought of a good scare. Some of them, not so much. I have gotten my husband pretty good, a few times, too.
So, it may be that you like to do crafts with your kids, and I enjoy scaring mine. It’s all good.
No matter what it is you enjoy doing with them, we all understand this truth;
A Mother’s light never burns out.
Her children will always be
her joy, her special treasure, and forever, a piece of her loving heritage.